Ryan J. Negri
3 min readFeb 28, 2023


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Negative self-talk can be a major barrier to achieving our goals and living a happy, fulfilled life. It can hold us back from taking risks and trying new things, and it can make us feel unworthy and unlovable. But the good news is that we can learn to overcome negative self-talk and build self-confidence. Here are some strategies for doing just that:

Identify the root cause of your negative self-talk.

Before you can start to overcome negative self-talk, it’s important to understand where it’s coming from. Is it a result of past trauma or rejection? Is it something you learned from a critical parent or teacher? Understanding the root cause of your negative self-talk can help you develop strategies for dealing with it.

Challenge negative thoughts with evidence.

When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, try to challenge them with evidence. For example, if you’re thinking “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself: “Is this really true? What evidence do I have to support this belief?” Often, we base our negative self-talk on unproven assumptions or past experiences that may not be accurate. By questioning the evidence behind our negative thoughts, we can start to see them as less true.

Practice self-compassion.

Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would extend to a good friend. Instead of beating ourselves up for our mistakes or flaws, we can learn to be more understanding and accepting of ourselves. When we practice self-compassion, we’re better able to cope with negative self-talk and build self-confidence.

Use affirmations and visualization.

Affirmations are positive statements that we can repeat to ourselves to help counter negative self-talk. For example, if you’re struggling with low self-esteem, you might try saying: “I am worthy and deserving of love and respect.” Visualization involves creating a mental image of yourself achieving your goals or living a positive life. By practicing affirmations and visualization regularly, you can start to shift your mindset and build self-confidence.

Seek support from others.

Dealing with negative self-talk can be tough, and it can be helpful to seek support from others. This might involve talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking help from a therapist or counselor, or joining a support group. Sharing your struggles with others can help you feel less alone and more able to overcome negative self-talk.

By using these strategies, you can start to overcome negative self-talk and build self-confidence. It takes time and practice, but with a little effort, you can learn to love and accept yourself just as you are.

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Originally posted on February 2, 2023, on RyanNegri.com



Ryan J. Negri

Personal Growth Consultant - Helping Humans Become Better Beings. I like to share my experiences in hopes it will help someone someday.